As I shared yesterday, the 'rents have been informed. :) I feel like I need to share a little more. Of course my mom was in 100%, and pretty much knew it was her duty to fill in pa. Well, after some serious words were said, mind you it is difficult for my father to be serious, he threw out one last comment, he said, "You could probably find a stray running around Wal-Mart on Saturday!" It was at this point that I knew everything was going to be okay! Not that I was worried or had any doubt, but just hearing him crack a joke let's me know that!
This journey was big before and now that we have involved other people, it's even bigger. Funny how something like this can be such a weight off your shoulders. It's been about 2 1/2 years since our journey started and we've done a good job keeping it private, so we thought... Not my fault my MIL has ESP... HAHAHA!
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Monday, January 28, 2013
Should we make this a holiday?
Today has become the official fill in the 'rents day! Maybe this wasn't the most appropriate way, but I sent my mom a text message at 745 am, knowing she would call me as soon as she read it. ;) Hey it's an ice breaker, right! HA!
I had no doubt that she (and my pa) would give us 110% support in this. My mothers response was, I hope you don't tell your MIL the same way you just told me. HA! I know how my mom takes things, so I wasn't worried about sending her a text message. She did call and we did talk for a few minutes. I told her well, I could have sent you a link to my blog and you could have found out that way. (That was mean of me wasn't it!)
The MIL will find out later today... Brandon is going to tell her.. .I'll fill in on that later!
Fast forward a couple of hours and now both mothers have been informed! Today is a good day! :) We can only go forward from here.
We've officially started background checks and signed up for the STARS classes.
I had no doubt that she (and my pa) would give us 110% support in this. My mothers response was, I hope you don't tell your MIL the same way you just told me. HA! I know how my mom takes things, so I wasn't worried about sending her a text message. She did call and we did talk for a few minutes. I told her well, I could have sent you a link to my blog and you could have found out that way. (That was mean of me wasn't it!)
The MIL will find out later today... Brandon is going to tell her.. .I'll fill in on that later!
Fast forward a couple of hours and now both mothers have been informed! Today is a good day! :) We can only go forward from here.
We've officially started background checks and signed up for the STARS classes.
Saturday, January 26, 2013
Progress...
Today, started as a normal Saturday for us. Little did. Know we wold end up buying some furniture for the future kiddos room. Which also lead to buying paint, hey we've talked about painting this bedroom for two years, and painting.
There is officially one coat of paint on the walls, but it will definitely need a second. Hopefully we'll get to that tomorrow.
There is officially one coat of paint on the walls, but it will definitely need a second. Hopefully we'll get to that tomorrow.
Thursday, January 24, 2013
Along the way
When our journey started, I thought to my self who on earth will ever understand all this? As I / we are pretty independent people. We don't involve our parents in every life decision. My mom and I are as close as we can be, but this was just one situation and decision I wasn't and still am not ready to share with her or the MIL. We will share with them when the time is right. We know that they will give us 100% support, but this is our journey. We really have some of the best parents you could ask for! They are all fantastic people. (After all there are some other adoptions that have taken place through out my family)
Well, being a police wife, I turned to the one place I know I belong, my other police wives!!! These women are amazing! There are so many of us, that someone is always in or has been in your situation.
At the beginning of our TTC journey, I posted and got several responses and good lucks and etc., but one person and I really "clicked!" Shannon, I love you, you are one of the strongest women I have ever met, well sort of met, in my life!
Granted, Shannon and I have never really met, she is in TX and I am in MO, but we are both on the same journey. Our lives lead similar direction and well our husbands, they are both the most supportive husbands I've ever known. If you want to read about another journey, check out her blog, http://thegoodthebadandthemarried.blogspot.com/ !
She is the one person who really gets what is going on. She understands what it's like to be smacked into the reality of being a LEO wife, she understands how great it is when AF shows her nasty face with out meds and she understands how frustrating a BFN is month after month. She's also the one who inspired me to blog about our journey. She started her's long ago and knows a lot more about this blogging stuff than I do, I'm a beginner, what can I say! LOL!!!
I've also talked to several other amazing women who have started the same journey and adopted along the way. It's really nice to ask questions and get REAL answers, not just something you read on Google. The internet is full of nasty rumors and sad endings. These ladies give real positive stories. Some are still on their journey waiting for their own LO or waiting on their adoption agency to call, but following their story proves that these stories really do have happy endings.
This is our fairly tale ladies! It starts out great, through the middle we have ups, downs, thunderstorms and some really big curves along the way, but in the end there is a really bright ray of sunshine with a huge rainbow!
Well, being a police wife, I turned to the one place I know I belong, my other police wives!!! These women are amazing! There are so many of us, that someone is always in or has been in your situation.
At the beginning of our TTC journey, I posted and got several responses and good lucks and etc., but one person and I really "clicked!" Shannon, I love you, you are one of the strongest women I have ever met, well sort of met, in my life!
Granted, Shannon and I have never really met, she is in TX and I am in MO, but we are both on the same journey. Our lives lead similar direction and well our husbands, they are both the most supportive husbands I've ever known. If you want to read about another journey, check out her blog, http://thegoodthebadandthemarried.blogspot.com/ !
She is the one person who really gets what is going on. She understands what it's like to be smacked into the reality of being a LEO wife, she understands how great it is when AF shows her nasty face with out meds and she understands how frustrating a BFN is month after month. She's also the one who inspired me to blog about our journey. She started her's long ago and knows a lot more about this blogging stuff than I do, I'm a beginner, what can I say! LOL!!!
I've also talked to several other amazing women who have started the same journey and adopted along the way. It's really nice to ask questions and get REAL answers, not just something you read on Google. The internet is full of nasty rumors and sad endings. These ladies give real positive stories. Some are still on their journey waiting for their own LO or waiting on their adoption agency to call, but following their story proves that these stories really do have happy endings.
This is our fairly tale ladies! It starts out great, through the middle we have ups, downs, thunderstorms and some really big curves along the way, but in the end there is a really bright ray of sunshine with a huge rainbow!
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Here starts the Adoption Journey...
We have officially decided we're going to adopt. As my previous post says, this is not the close to our TTC journey, more like an addition.
The initial phone call was made a couple weeks ago, which gives you the contact number for your local Social Services person. Yes, we are going to start our journey by adopting a child who is currently in the "system" we know we may not be given an infant, but our preferred age range in 0 - 4 years old.
I finally got to talk to someone yesterday, January 22, 2013. She was so nice and answered all of my questions with out hesitation.
Basically, we have to go to a STARS class, which is held one evening a week for 9 weeks, since we want to be adoptive parents, we have to go for 2 additional weeks. Prior to class starting, there will be an initial home visit. At this home visit, it's pretty generic. They check your house and tell you what you need to fix and change, explain the system in depth and get to know you, future parents. This will also open our eyes a little more to confirm we are ready to tackle this! (I think we are!) After 11 weeks of classes, the in depth home visits start. There are usually more than one home visit. They make sure your home is ready, find out about your family, the way you react to different things and etc. After all that, you just wait for your child to come along. There are so many children in the custody of the State of MO that I don't think it will take too long. There is a trial period that the child lives with you to make sure you all adapt, and your case worker will still visit and see how the transition is going. We don't want to do an open adoption. Definitely closed...
There is also the option of a "private" adoption. This is where you go through an agency and adopt an infant. There is a huge expense to doing this. The option is out there, but right not it's not the option for us, at least not right now.
We will do our best to keep up on here, for you and for us to look at someday and think wow, what a journey!
The initial phone call was made a couple weeks ago, which gives you the contact number for your local Social Services person. Yes, we are going to start our journey by adopting a child who is currently in the "system" we know we may not be given an infant, but our preferred age range in 0 - 4 years old.
I finally got to talk to someone yesterday, January 22, 2013. She was so nice and answered all of my questions with out hesitation.
There is also the option of a "private" adoption. This is where you go through an agency and adopt an infant. There is a huge expense to doing this. The option is out there, but right not it's not the option for us, at least not right now.
We will do our best to keep up on here, for you and for us to look at someday and think wow, what a journey!
The start of our jouney...
Back in April of 2006, I met my soul mate. In April of 2010, that soul mate became my husband. Now everything we do is done as a team.
Jump forward to August of 2010, we decided that we wanted to start TTC (trying to conceive). We knew this would be a long trying process. Little did we know where it would lead us. The battle no woman ever wants to fight, infertility.
My cycles were never normal, but I never thought about it because well, I just wasn't worried about it. In December of 2009, I started AF but it didn't stop. I dealt with it, two weeks on, a few days off, then on again and so on. I thought it would stop on its, own, but it didn't I finally made a dr. appointment. I was told my sugar was a little out of whack and that was probably the issue, and was started on 500 mg of Metformin and birth control pills to try to regulate. Two weeks before our wedding I had the worst bleeding of my life! Again, the doc said let it run it's course, once your birth control pills kick in, it'll stop. Low and behold, 5 days before my wedding it stopped!!! Thank you Jesus! Well, I continued to take the BC pills until September 1st. That's when I stopped. Again, no AF, no AF, no AF and so on... well, for me this was normal, it's how my periods have always gone. Finally I would have one....then I'd skip several months...and so on... jump forward to December of 2011, I started having some spotting and by January 2012 here we go again, the never ending AF! UGH... This went off and on until April, I started taking birth control pills again because I knew that would make it stop and we were fixing to go to the beach!!! At the end of March, I called and made an appointment with an Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE). First available appointment was in May. That's okay, I know there aren't a lot of them and was willing to wait. Finally, my appointment. First appointment wasn't so bad. They talked to me about what was going on and did some blood work. They scheduled hubs for a sperm analysis (SA), and scheduled my next appointment, which would include a pap and a biopsy.... SCARY!!! Fast forward to appointment #2, that was the most painful thing I can remember! Sorry ladies, be prepared cause it hurts! I have never left the doc crying until that day. Poor hubs he was such a good sport! :) All results came back, my sugar was not out of whack, my A1C was 5.7, they get concerned at 6.0. Hubs had to do a second SA, the first one wasn't quite what they wanted to see, but the second one was fine. As for me, basically I have PCOS, I just haven't ever had an issue with cysts... So our fertility treatment begins...I started round one, Provera to induce period, Clomid 50 mg, cd 3-7 with 500 mg Metformin. No response, on to cycle 2, Provera to induce period, 100 mg Clomid, cd 3-7 with 500 mg Metformin. No response, BUT I got AF naturally!!! YAY!!!!! On to cycle 3, 150 mg Clomid, cd 3-7 with 500 mg Metformin. No response again! :( Follow up appointment to discuss our next option. My RE said that at my weight, 500 mg Metformin isn't going to do anything (We just followed this regimen that I was already on) and that higher doses of Metformin paired with Clomid can help. One side effect of PCOS is insulin resistance....It's amazing how all these organs in your body works together, I've learned A LOT!! Anyways, I had the option to try Clomid with 2000 mg of Metformin or try Femera, which is marketed for breast cancer patients but has been proven to work with fertility. Femera is more expensive, so for now, I chose to try Clomid with a high dose of Metformin. I did the first round in December, 100 mg Clomid with 2000 mg Metformin... No response, BUT again, I got my period naturally!!! Onto the next cycle... 200 mg Clomid with 2000 mg Metformin. Still waiting on the results. I havne't had a positive OPK yet, so I'm not ready to go do blood work to check my progesterone.
A midst all off this, early on in our relationship, we talked about adoption. We both have big hearts and love kids. So that has always been in the back of our minds. Well, we've decided we're going to start the adoption process. This in no way puts our TTC journey on hold or calls it quits! What ever happens, is meant to happen. If we end up with a house full, that's okay! More on the adoption journey in my next post.
You are now up to speed as to what this blog will be about. You've read about our TTC journey and you'll still read about it, you will also be reading about our Adoption journey! Can't wait to write about that in my next post. :)
Jump forward to August of 2010, we decided that we wanted to start TTC (trying to conceive). We knew this would be a long trying process. Little did we know where it would lead us. The battle no woman ever wants to fight, infertility.
My cycles were never normal, but I never thought about it because well, I just wasn't worried about it. In December of 2009, I started AF but it didn't stop. I dealt with it, two weeks on, a few days off, then on again and so on. I thought it would stop on its, own, but it didn't I finally made a dr. appointment. I was told my sugar was a little out of whack and that was probably the issue, and was started on 500 mg of Metformin and birth control pills to try to regulate. Two weeks before our wedding I had the worst bleeding of my life! Again, the doc said let it run it's course, once your birth control pills kick in, it'll stop. Low and behold, 5 days before my wedding it stopped!!! Thank you Jesus! Well, I continued to take the BC pills until September 1st. That's when I stopped. Again, no AF, no AF, no AF and so on... well, for me this was normal, it's how my periods have always gone. Finally I would have one....then I'd skip several months...and so on... jump forward to December of 2011, I started having some spotting and by January 2012 here we go again, the never ending AF! UGH... This went off and on until April, I started taking birth control pills again because I knew that would make it stop and we were fixing to go to the beach!!! At the end of March, I called and made an appointment with an Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE). First available appointment was in May. That's okay, I know there aren't a lot of them and was willing to wait. Finally, my appointment. First appointment wasn't so bad. They talked to me about what was going on and did some blood work. They scheduled hubs for a sperm analysis (SA), and scheduled my next appointment, which would include a pap and a biopsy.... SCARY!!! Fast forward to appointment #2, that was the most painful thing I can remember! Sorry ladies, be prepared cause it hurts! I have never left the doc crying until that day. Poor hubs he was such a good sport! :) All results came back, my sugar was not out of whack, my A1C was 5.7, they get concerned at 6.0. Hubs had to do a second SA, the first one wasn't quite what they wanted to see, but the second one was fine. As for me, basically I have PCOS, I just haven't ever had an issue with cysts... So our fertility treatment begins...I started round one, Provera to induce period, Clomid 50 mg, cd 3-7 with 500 mg Metformin. No response, on to cycle 2, Provera to induce period, 100 mg Clomid, cd 3-7 with 500 mg Metformin. No response, BUT I got AF naturally!!! YAY!!!!! On to cycle 3, 150 mg Clomid, cd 3-7 with 500 mg Metformin. No response again! :( Follow up appointment to discuss our next option. My RE said that at my weight, 500 mg Metformin isn't going to do anything (We just followed this regimen that I was already on) and that higher doses of Metformin paired with Clomid can help. One side effect of PCOS is insulin resistance....It's amazing how all these organs in your body works together, I've learned A LOT!! Anyways, I had the option to try Clomid with 2000 mg of Metformin or try Femera, which is marketed for breast cancer patients but has been proven to work with fertility. Femera is more expensive, so for now, I chose to try Clomid with a high dose of Metformin. I did the first round in December, 100 mg Clomid with 2000 mg Metformin... No response, BUT again, I got my period naturally!!! Onto the next cycle... 200 mg Clomid with 2000 mg Metformin. Still waiting on the results. I havne't had a positive OPK yet, so I'm not ready to go do blood work to check my progesterone.
A midst all off this, early on in our relationship, we talked about adoption. We both have big hearts and love kids. So that has always been in the back of our minds. Well, we've decided we're going to start the adoption process. This in no way puts our TTC journey on hold or calls it quits! What ever happens, is meant to happen. If we end up with a house full, that's okay! More on the adoption journey in my next post.
You are now up to speed as to what this blog will be about. You've read about our TTC journey and you'll still read about it, you will also be reading about our Adoption journey! Can't wait to write about that in my next post. :)
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